I direct your attention to this site (sorry about the ads): http://www.salon.com/2013/04/15/self_publishing_star_faces_backlash_for_misogynist_rant_partner/
Mr. Wooley should've remembered "Smile & Nod".
Manipulative buzzwords like 'misogynist' aside, I agree - partly - with Mr. Wooley. However, I also feel the fool should've still kept his hands in his pockets instead of writing about how he rose to the insult.
I've made similar mistakes. Someone says shit about my beloved choices or shows prejudice towards me because I'm cheating some poor agent or Trade Pubber their nickels; I get pissy. I might even rant about it here (oh my, yes!).
This is what I see so wrong about the situation:
1. Wooley stuck his neck out with blatant honesty and someone else had his head for it. Other bloggers and so-called news sources manipulate the story with buzzwords for their own ends.
2. 'Crazy' mentioned in Wooley's blog is a self-absorbed, self-centered coattail rider who only was looking out for her own career.
3. I agree with Wooley's wife; 'Crazy' needs a fucking slap. Two, in fact; one for the prejudicial attitude and one for the ignorant thought no one would see how transparent she was.
4. When both sides of the argument throw insults and slurs, nobody's right. Wooley needs a slap for forgetting himself and providing the sharks something to chew on.
It's an agreed standard practice now for Indies to take all negative reviews and responses and put them in the Do Not Respond pile. When you're in real life, the equivalent is "Smile & Nod". Unless you can use your words and publicly shame the hell out of the offender with dashing responses that make them nearly combust in front of you, SHUT IT.
Smile & Nod.
I invite others to provide in the comments their responses they'd like to give when insulted about their choice to self-publish and anecdotes about similar instances.
I'll start it off:
"While I can respect the fact you have an opinion, you reveal how little you're informed about the subject. I know several resources that can aid you so you look less foolish in the future." (Smiling and nodding)